When your husband's heart rate spikes when they try to get him out of bed, (and you're not even there to see it because you forced yourself to "get out" and took the shuttle to Target for an hour) then later his cognitive function seems "off" and then he clearly has a fever but nothing is reading as such, his tremor is crazy bad, his nurse (before she leaves for the next shift) mentions his "CSF fluid is a darker color" (she at least also tells you she's informed the doctor), and he says he has a headache, when he hasn't had one for a day or so, when they're testing his blood for Heprin content but not for infection, when he then SHOWS a fever ...
Is this a brain bleed?
Is this an infection?
Is this a BRAIN infection?
Is this the tumor doing something?
Is this swelling post-op?
Is this a pool of CSF up there making trouble? Is it air somehow getting in again?
Does this "just sometimes happen?"
Does this "sometimes cause this other thing?"
All of that, coupled with feeling like no one was listening to what I was saying, married with, "am I way over-reacting here, if no one else seems concerned?" on top of "they're all in surgery and can't chat with us about this," and "we still haven't determined what we're doing about that PICC line (replace or keep?) ... and "yes, he can tell you his name and this hospital, but he says the bathroom is way down the hall, and says it in broken speech, when he's never actually USED this bathroom and if he had, he'd know it's about 2 feet away ...
I'm so tired.
Ian is sleeping comfortably. His fever went away, his heart rate is acceptable and steady. My eyes sting from a two-hour terror cry. I'm going to bed, while my Dad sits up with Ian for a bit longer, watching him sleep. Tomorrow is a new day, of course ... but as we know, it can always be worse.
Pray for us. I have no idea what today was about, nor do I know if we'll ever know, NOR do I know it won't happen again, or even not to EXPECT it, for that matter. Semper Gumby.
Also please pray for "A," a man probably younger than Ian with similar health history who seems to have taken a dramatic downturn tonight.
There are others on my heart tonight. You know who you are. A hard, sad night.
At least there was rain.